tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6283864000392447042.post3928091555572827073..comments2023-05-03T00:54:10.638-07:00Comments on subject by design: All About Feelings for $500, Alexsubject by designhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10587758866636087935noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6283864000392447042.post-41839525098791548172016-09-13T20:02:55.918-07:002016-09-13T20:02:55.918-07:00I did NOT know that. :) I did NOT know that. :) subject by designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10587758866636087935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6283864000392447042.post-26504410747535056252016-09-12T23:38:47.609-07:002016-09-12T23:38:47.609-07:00BTW, did you know that Yenta means busybody/gossip...BTW, did you know that Yenta means busybody/gossip, not specifically 'matchmaker'?<br /><br />Interesting...<br /><br />https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/yenta<br />Hubertnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6283864000392447042.post-87643712776736390032016-09-12T18:25:21.650-07:002016-09-12T18:25:21.650-07:00I am familiar with the public announcements of cou...I am familiar with the public announcements of courtships. In my two decades of being involved in the "courtship movement" I have not known of even ONE private courtship or arranged marriage. By that I mean I have never been surprised by an engagement announcement. My experience doesn't mean it never happens, but it does mean that if "hidden relationships" do occur, they are rare and hardly worthy of a rebuke from someone who doesn't approve and who claims it is a widespread occurrence. It is one thing to say, "I don't like it when people don't let me know their daughter is courting" to accusing others of needing to repent for not telling her. Perhaps I'm making too much of her imprecise writing style and seeing things that aren't there.subject by designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10587758866636087935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6283864000392447042.post-64418647577174666882016-09-12T17:13:44.079-07:002016-09-12T17:13:44.079-07:00Though I enjoyed your post very much, but I agree ...Though I enjoyed your post very much, but I agree with Jeremy, I do not believe that she was referring your daughter's wildly successful marriage process. At her church, they have a tradition of announcing courtships from the pulpit and making them very widely known.<br /><br />Jeremy did not hide his courtships, but did not broadcast them, either. I think that is a wise path to navigate. (I'm not commenting on method of courtship/dateship/arrangement)Hubertnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6283864000392447042.post-57916997013939351482016-09-08T16:36:07.934-07:002016-09-08T16:36:07.934-07:00I am not familiar with the secret/private courtshi...I am not familiar with the secret/private courtship. In my own acquaintance I have never known of even one. There could have been some that didn't end in marriage, which is why I never heard of them, but I would, of course, be pleased about that and I can't imagine complaining that I was entitled to know. I have never even heard of anyone (besides my husband) advocating for such a thing, which is why I'm suspicious of whom is being called to repent in the instant case. And, I would repeat my assertion that a call to repentance should be private. It is one thing to say "the Church should repent of such and such" when there is a prevailing sort of sinful situation or attitude, such as not doing anything about abortion, but it is another when the accusation is about a behavior that is not wide-spread and seems to be referring to a small group of people or even a single person or family. subject by designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10587758866636087935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6283864000392447042.post-26230119680096024382016-09-08T14:49:43.430-07:002016-09-08T14:49:43.430-07:00When I read the post I did not think it was referr...When I read the post I did not think it was referring to your daughter's situation. It is very common for courtships to either be secret or wink/nudge secret. For example, my grandma was surprised when I told her the number of women I have pursued. Many people in the courtship world attempt to keep courtships secret for the same reasons that you give. If they were consistent they would embrace arranged marriage. But, hey, cognitive dissonance gives quite the buzz.<br /><br />Of course, this is just my reading of the situation. You could ask Mrs. Petta herself.Jeremy VanGelderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08108522223092798020noreply@blogger.com